Being female, I admit that we are complicated. We dunno what to do to our hair, can’t make an outfit out of a million different items of clothing and can’t decide what colour we want our nails painted either. Its easier to live as a female if you just accept that you are complicated.
My ratio of female friends to male friends is 50:50. Exactly. I read a blog post this morning dogging on the girls who prefer the company of guys to other girls. Honestly, its not just girls who prefer the company of the opposite sex. Its both. Sometimes, a guy wants to be around people that actually listen and not have stupid things to say and sometimes, a girl doesn’t want advice from a girl who might like the guy she’s complaining about.
I’m dating my best friend. Not that I owe anyone an explanation as to why but its not because we never had sex lives, not because we needed financial support, not because we lack self-control… Because we WANT to! People assume its a ‘marriage of convenience’ but its really not. As for self control, nobody I know can pride themselves on self-control as much as we can. We shared a bed countless times, were room mates for over a month, gotten wasted together… There have been so many opportunities for us to take advantage of each other but we never did. We had always lived in the same house or really close to each other and still… We fell for each other recently. When we are apart and had other things going for us in our own lives.
Having many male friends in no way makes me a cheat or loose or likely to sleep with them. It makes me a little more aware of guys’ characters… The guys who paint themselves with pity and romance to mask their inner assholes, the ones who act like there’s no one else when he makes every other girl feel that way, the ones who judge the little things u do and ignore the mansion of bullshit they’ve built, the ones who are on such a high horse pretending to see past just looks… The nicest guys are the ones we think are assholes actually…
I don’t think girls are bitches or I’m a guy in a girl’s body. I’m pretty girly but the girls I’ve given a chance have screwed me over so! I have Abby, Nsama and Yvonne for female best friends, and Maluba, Chimy (yes, he’s still my boyfriend) and Musandu for male best friends. I don’t mind people thinking me being around guys makes me a whore… I know why I’m always around them. Besides, I have never met females that top my three girls… 🙂
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